I do not actually like to consider what I *ought to* have carried out in sure conditions as a result of it simply makes me really feel regretful–and that is not a contented feeling. However there are some extra light-hearted issues that I’d change if I might return in time. Not regrets, however simply making totally different decisions…

1) I’d have eloped slightly than have a marriage reception.

I by no means actually had goals of a giant fancy marriage ceremony, but it surely was form of a on condition that what we have been “supposed” to do (again in 2003, anyway) is have a marriage with numerous visitors and a reception (dinner/drinks/dancing). I undoubtedly didn’t do “fancy”, but it surely was comparatively giant). It was nice that individuals got here and celebrated with us and the entire occasion turned out very nice, however I spent the entire night making the rounds mingling and thanking individuals for coming, making an attempt to make sure everyone felt welcome and had a enjoyable time–I did not even eat my marriage ceremony dinner, cake, or have a single drink! 

Planning a marriage takes a lot time (and cash!) and it is over with in a flash. If I might had goals of a giant marriage ceremony it will have been price it, however I truthfully did not actually care about that.

If I have been to do it throughout, I’d skip the entire huge ceremony and reception and simply plan a visit someplace. We might have a fast ceremony at a easy location after which get pleasure from our trip. Jerry and I did not go on a honeymoon due to the expense, so slightly than spend all the cash on a reception, it will have been enjoyable to go on a pleasant journey.

I do not really feel regretful, however I’d undoubtedly do it in a different way if I knew then what I do know now.

2) I’d have stick-built our residence.

Jerry and I had plans of a “starter residence”, so we purchased lots on this neighborhood, employed a contractor to construct a basis, and ordered a manufactured residence (a.ok.a. trailer) placed on the lot. Manufactured houses have a stigma however we actually appreciated it. And we LOVE residing throughout from the marsh. So, we in the end determined to remain right here.

On the time, we had no concept what we have been doing–we knew nothing about proudly owning a home–so over time, we found little issues that have been tougher to interchange as a result of they weren’t standard–things just like the thickness of some partitions (a typical door jamb is slightly too huge). Nothing horrible, and we have definitely been in a position to personalize every thing to our style, however it will have been simpler to construct a home right here and make every thing normal sizes with upgraded supplies. (I’ve no need to have an even bigger home–ours is the right measurement for our family–but I’d change the structure a bit. Nevertheless, I did not know what sort of structure I needed as a result of I had by no means lived by myself!)

Once I did the large renovation just a few years in the past, I upgraded a LOT of stuff (easy issues just like the molding and lighting fixtures and door slabs). The price of every thing (the lot we purchased + our residence + our renovation) wasn’t any cheaper than constructing a home. We actually like the place we dwell and the up to date residence, so it labored out ultimately. Nevertheless, if I might have recognized we have been going to remain right here, I’d have deliberate issues out rather more rigorously and customised it.

3) I’d have traveled a bit earlier than settling down.

My first time within the PNW–and my first hike!

This sounds foolish, but it surely by no means occurred to me that I might transfer anyplace I desired after I was able to dwell by myself! I do not remorse getting married so younger (21 years outdated), or having children so younger (I used to be 22 after I had Noah and 23 after I had Eli). Nevertheless, it was simply type of a on condition that Jerry and I’d dwell near the place our mother and father dwell. We by no means even talked about transferring elsewhere.

If we have been in a position to return in time, I’d have appreciated to see another locations within the nation after which select the place we might wish to cool down. I *love* the Pacific Northwest and possibly would have chosen to dwell there. Alternatively, our households dwell in Michigan and it is good to have the ability to see them anytime we wish. My children have been in a position to develop up lower than a mile from my mother and father, in order that they rode their bikes over there steadily. I additionally developed a better relationship with my mother and father due to it.

I’ve made positive to inform my children that they do not need to cool down right here simply because they grew up right here, although. I might love for them to discover a bit and discover a location that they get pleasure from. It might be nice to dwell close to them! However I would not be unhappy if one among them settled within the Pacific Northwest, either–I’d simply need to go go to usually 😉


So, these are three issues I’d do in a different way if I had recognized then what I do know now. Like I mentioned, I do not really feel regretful about them; I did not know any higher on the time! I began an “grownup life” (a house and marriage and youngsters) comparatively younger, so I’ve realized fairly a bit since then. And I can assist my children uncover that they’ve numerous choices in “grownup life” and so they do not need to make fast selections!

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